The Cosmopolitan put out a video this week showing men what happens to their girlfriends when they’re not around. Surpriiise! Catcalls. Lots of them. But there’s soooo much happening in this video. Check it out:
First of all, ladies. You can do better than this. Every boyfriend in this video is a total wimp. They’re you without breasts. Get a guy who will not, NOT, tolerate even seeing this. If you being catcalled (well, the real ones) doesn’t outrage him to the point that he’s ready to flatline a Cosmo producer for putting you through this… he’s not worthy. Have some self-respect.
At least that last punk had the wherewithal to tell his girl, “You’re somebody’s daughter, you know, somebody’s sister. I’m sure if somebody did that to one of their — their mother or their cousin or something they wouldn’t appreciate it.” Wouldn’t. Appreciate. It. Amigo, reach down for me. Feel that empty void? Yeah, that’s where your balls used to be.
Also, did you notice anything about the “men” who did the catcalling in this clip? Regardless of the race of the woman walking down the street, every catcall came from a black man. Every. Single. One. Is it racist to even point that out? No. It’s a cultural reality.
Could Cosmo not find a single white guy to catcall? Are they racists, themselves? That said, there’s an unspoken rule in our culture about pointing out any type of failure in the black community. We’re afraid of being called racists, afraid of the media onslaught, afraid of the truth. And it needs to stop. Problems can’t be solved until we acknowledge they exist. In 2011, 85% of rapes in New York City were committed by blacks and Hispanics. The majority of murder, manslaughter, rape, robbery, and aggravated assault crimes from 2011-2013 were committed by black males. That’s a problem. And it’s a problem that starts with the not having enough respect for women in the first place.
Finally, some of these cat calls were wild inappropriate, yes. – like the one where the guy yells “nice t*ts!” – But some of them, were perfectly polite. A man asking how you “get your hair so nice” is not being aggressive, nor inappropriate. He’s trying to start a conversation. Just like the fallacy that is “rape culture”, feminists need to stop conflating the issues here. It does a gross disservice to the real victims everywhere.
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P.S. Months ago, during the first viral ‘cat-call’ video, we asked ourselves, what happens when you cat-call real women? Wonder no more…
In defense of the males, they were on camera and didn’t want to come across as thugs. I’d like to see what happens if they same guys were hidden somewhere on the street while this was going on. I suspect there would be some violence involved. At least I hope so..
My husband won’t say shit either, but these days you have to worry about if someone is going to pull a gun, or chase you with a car. Can’t expect them to fight that.
I watched your “cat-calling” real women video. Sorry, but you were not approaching the women on the street and you weren’t cat calling them, and you’re a nice looking man. There’s a difference between what you did and what these guys in this video are doing.
What does him being a good looking man have anything to do with the catcalling and approaching women? Oh right, I forgot. It’s perfectly fine and even welcome if they think the guy is handsome. So it’s not about respect or morality or sexism. It’s just about superficial taste. What a surprise…not.
I love that you chose to to focus on just one aspect of my comment, and you still got it wrong. There’s a difference between a “NICE” looking man approaching and having a pleasant conversation with a woman in customer service than a sloppy looking man calling out to you as you walk by. Details.
I’m 49. I wish I still got catcalled! LOL
Courtney – he might not have been approaching them in the street but he was saying similar things as some of the men in the original video, i.e. they were not cat calling either! Also I think it’s a shame that the looks of the man is a factor. So if a good looking man were to cat call then it’s not harassment?
Its all harassment maybe those girls knew that walking away is the best option.
It might be a shame that looks are a factor, but how you present yourself is always a factor. And as in the original comment, I said “nice-looking” as in he looked nice. Presented well. Friendly. Cordial. Face it, if a NICE-LOOKING man compliments a woman and says hello, it carries more weight than a man who looks questionable. Just being honest here. I know sometimes honesty rubs people the wrong way.
‘And it’s a problem that starts with the not having enough respect for women in the first place.’ \
Say the schmuck who wrote a few lines earlier…
‘they’re wimps. Like you without breasts’
Women are wimps and lesser than men! The men are lesser because they don’t have penises and are like women!
Keep these articles coming man! They’re hilarious.
I also caught the misogyny. You say respect women but say the boyfriends are pathetic and wimps…”you without breasts”. This commentary makes a mountain out of a molehill, reads into details based on supposition, and then places women as inferior.
In a way it is ironic that for someone who does not believe in rape culture, he actually propagates rape culture on a daily basis.
It’s appropriate to compliment women on their accomplishments, skills, or even article’s of clothing. But not on their body parts and physical appearance. That just makes women uncomfortable in general.
Do you do the same for men? compliment them on their clothes?
If I get dolled up and go out one night and receive zero comments; I’d be bummed! There’s a time and a place for commenting on a woman’s looks – saying that it’s never appropriate is a little closed-minded.
I liked the last guy’s reaction.
As far as the comment – you without the breasts – being sexist. I don’t have a problem with it. Women, until recently were trained to be polite, don’t talk back, be kind, etc, etc, etc. We were supposed to be polite and feminine and Crowder is pointing that out.
Now I would have kept walking but I also would have made equally crude remarks back but that is not really typical. Then I’m a transplanted NY’er in ATL so most of my friends excuse me by saying – she’s a Yankee. I’m not a feminist but I’m not about to listen to anyone’s cracks about what my mom gave me either.
Though in general I agree… If I’m out shopping or whatever, being complimented or having a guy try to flirt with me is not offensive and does sometimes make me feel good about myself. HOWEVER… Duh if you say something like that to a woman while she is working; she’s not going to act offended! Because you’re a customer!
If you think you have reproduced the feeling of being confronted in a rushed, loud, and intrusive manner on a city street – you have failed. Not at all similar.