Full disclosure: I personally believe children have a right to a mother AND a father. Why? Because it takes both a mother and a father to make a baby. Science. I then conclude it takes a mother and a father to raise a child. Therefore I’ve always got my small nose bent out of shape whenever someone starts espousing the bravery of single-motherhood, how wonderful it is, how single mothers are heroes deserving of trophies, statues, but most of all, my approval.
Yes, I’m 100% against abortion (read Dear Chris Christie: Abortion is Never an Act of Self-Defense, you Sick, Dumb Bastard…). Raising your child alone is better than cutting it up and putting her in the trash. Okay? Okay. But this whole idea that single moms are the “it” thing? Not buying it. I’m going to stop ranting and let Gavin McInnes take it from here…
This is going to leave a mark.
“Being raised by a single mom is generally terrible for children,” a description for the video reads on YouTube. “[T]hese women desperately want to be considered ‘cool’ but they’re miserable, selfish and lying to themselves.”
“This isn’t about you, it’s about the kids. So grow up. Being a single mom sucks,” Mr. McInnes, who left Vice in 2007 after 13 years with the company, argued in the video, The Blaze reported Friday. “It sucks for everyone, especially the children who you brought into this world.”
Ouch. But it’s true. The best guarantor for personal success, not defined by me but defined by evidence, is if you were raised by your mother and father. According to this article, you’re also probably more intelligent if you were raised by mom and dad. For the exact reasons Gavin stated. Children need balance. Children need mothers to nurture, care for, smother with love and affection. Children need fathers to provide for them, play with them (yes, mom’s play too), and sometimes be “bad cop.” Balance. Support. #FathersMatter
The new idea from the feminist left is that children don’t need dads. It’s even one of the tenants of the gay-rights movement, that children don’t need both a mom and a dad, that two mommies or two daddies should suffice. Wrong.
Here’s the macro issue here, and then we’ll be done with this topic until it arises again: why am I even having to WRITE that children need both a mother and a father? For sure, some SJW crapmoneky will leave a comment that I’m a horrible human being for daring to suggest a biological reality. How dare I suggest that children raised by single mothers are worse off. How dare Gavin McInnes say single motherhood is bad for children. SINGLE MOTHERS ARE HEROES!!!
No they’re not. Frankly I’m a bit tired of the party line. Single mothers face a tough battle, sure, but that doesn’t make them heroes. The problem Gavin and I have with this broad featured in the video is her blatant attempt to change the narrative of her own life, by trying to make single motherhood “cool.” I get that sometimes you want to put a positive spin on something. Really, I do. But in this case, no. The personal success of children is at stake here. This isn’t about what is “cool.”
What do you think? Are Gavin McInnes and I horrible people for daring to suggest kids should have moms and dads? Tweet me at @Courtneyscoffs. I’ll just ignore you, but maybe it’ll make you feel better to rage.