Dear men who may or may not be totally confused by the modern woman,
On behalf of traditionally-leaning women, I’m sorry. Your position in our society is not an enviable one. One day you have to hear about your cis-gendered male privilege, the next moment you might be scolded for sitting on a train in an allegedly offensive manner. That is, not squishing your own testicles with your inner thighs. You chauvinist pig.
Despite what horned feminists like Lena Dunham may utter from her facial aperture, traditional-leaning women, such as myself, actually want men to take the lead. Leadership. Coming to a theater near you.
Side note to feminists…
For you cave-dwelling harpies of SJW feminism: I’m sure every word typed heretofore has offended the three inch hairs of your armpits. “Taking the lead” is not to be confused with “Being an ass.” Leadership does not equal machismo anymore than “Being a woman” equals femininity. You’re proof of that. So un-bunch your sized 18 panties, and read my explanation. Then take a bath.
Yes, many women want men to be leaders. There’s a chance you, the man reading this post, already knew that. I congratulate you. Here, I’ve even made you a sammich:
Ignore the man-hands. Sadly a lot of men? Your dominant feeling regarding us ladies may be one of confusion or fear. Likely a combination of both. One day you read about men falsely accused of rape. Then you read a post like this, asking you to lead. Well crap. Rock. Hard place. You.
I want to be clear, I’m not trying to “woman-splain” leadership. In no way do I want this letter to come across as patronizing. My aim is to echo a sentiment a lot of women think and feel. And voice privately.
I keep using the word “lead.” Leadership, in my book, is a culmination of decisiveness, confidence, having goals, going for them. Never apologizing for that confidence, never apologizing for being men. Women don’t apologize for being women. Why should you for being a man? #Equality. That goal by the way? Might even be trying to get a woman.
No, you cake-eating harpies spilling over their corsets. When I say men should go after what they want, I’m not talking about rape. Stop focusing on the rape already. Go buy a razor and shave your pits.
Feminism has piled on and shouted down at you at every opportunity, using their screeching, man-hating ways to get what they thought they wanted: weak, sniveling men. Men who are afraid to do anything around a woman. Even telling a woman she’s attractive. Or making eye contact. Surely some brain-dead feminist will say that’s “rape culture.” But only because no man dared make eye contact with her.
No Beta Males…
But our entire society loses when it teaches its men to be weak, yielding, unsure pansies who don’t have to take responsibility for their actions or provide for their own basic needs (you Bernie Sanders sycophants come to mind). We’re living in an age where women are the leading providers, and men are shoved to second tier status. Despite being told they have “privilege.”
Despite what every harpy screeches, despite what the public education system teaches, despite what butch-cutted professors in gender studies classes say, society benefits from strong, confident, leading men. Even white ones. I know, how dare I say such a thing. I walk that back zero. I’d say the same for women. #Equality
Women admire men for their masculine qualities the same way men admire women for their feminine qualities. Further still, men admire other men for their confidence and leadership abilities. Everyone. Wins.
Women do not want beta male men any more than men want to be beta males. It’s a lose-lose scenario. Women do not like beta males at work or beta males at home. Weak men make poor fathers, who do not help raise strong, respectable children. It’s a tragic cycle of misery. And skinny jeans.
Yes, the same can be said for weak women. But I’m not writing about them. Though you may be interested in Dear Weak, Pathetic Women: Modern Feminism is for YOU!
Say no to jerks.
Here’s where the confusion comes in. At least for some men. Being a leader is not to be confused with being an epic douche of Tess Holliday proportions. Drinking the most beers while belching or grabbing for bewbs does not a man make. Nor is a leader someone who simply bosses people around. Being a “good man” is not the same as metaphorically dropping your pants to compare whose is bigger. Sorry for the crassness, but many men mistake masculinity with pointless machismo, general douchebaggery, and brutish behavior. That’s not a “real man.” That’s an asshole. If you’re unsure of the difference…
By the way, guys? No woman wants pictures of your junk. Stop it.
Women want men to be strong. We want you to be leaders. It feels wrong for me to say “I’m giving you permission to lead,” because that’s not what I’m trying to do here. I know it’s a fine line I’m dancing upon, but because I write at Louder with Crowder, because I see what’s happening to our culture, I know weakness breeds. Men have been shouted down. They’ve been squashed. So what I’m hoping to convey is this: your masculine instincts to be strong? They’re prized. The urge you have to step up and do great things? Give into it.
Third-wave feminism is a dying movement. Everything written above? I’ve heard it said by other women. And older men. Step up, guys. Yes, the ladies love a man with confidence. But our culture needs you too.
Written by Courtney Kirchoff
Steven and I discuss men and leadership in this time stamped video below. Well… and dating too. Yikes.